Love is an amazing
measure
You can love many people
But you will never love
two people in the exact same way
Each measure of love is
unique to that individual
It should not be measured
in how much or how little
It should simply be
measured by that you do love
The main aspects of love
are appreciation and caring
Combined it will always
calculate you a unique measure of love
You only need one or the
other, both are not required. But love is more fulfilling if both are present.
Love can be extended to
anyone in your life; near, distant, familiar or even obscure.
If people love you, do
you have to love them back? If you love someone, do they have to love you back?
No. Love shared by two
people are always at two different measures.
You may love your friend enough
to think of them as your best friend. That friend may love you back, but they
may refer to another as their best friend.
Familiarity with someone
should not be confused with love, unless that familiarity brings appreciation
and or caring.
Infatuation is not love,
not yet. More than likely though this is a transient or temporary love that
could potentially dissipate to familiarity. But infatuation could also
potentially grow into a very high measure of love.
You never know.
But when someone tells you
they are “in love with you”, understand that their love for you is an
infatuation.
People who truly love you
do not say “in” or “out”. They simply do
love you.
So what is “romantic
love”?
This is the most
rewarding love, when shared with another.
This is the cruelest
love, when the measures of love between two people differ significantly.
Romantic love goes beyond
caring and appreciation – although caring and appreciation are the foundation
of all loves.
Romantic love often
extends to include passion, desire, commitment, and then contentment.
Romantic love most often
begins as infatuation, which entwines the passion and desire.
This is the most
dangerous phase of love.
This is the phase of love
that requires the most courage.
This is also the phase of
love that requires the most caution.
Because, as I said
earlier, infatuation can end as quickly as it begins.
And should the end of
infatuation occur for the other party before it occurs for you, the pain can be
devastating.
And should the end of
infatuation occur for you before the other party, I urge you be honest and
polite as you dismiss it. Be kind.
But be cautions of the
desire and the passion you feel in this early state. Acting to aggressively may
well have very severe penalties.
I implore you as someone
who loves you and wants only the best for you, that when you feel the strong
passions and desires of infatuation, please employ patience and restraint. Not
forever. But until you at least gain an understanding of how transient – how
temporary or how potential the prospect of feeling commitment and contentment
from this love appears to be.
Do not waste your passion
and your desire on temporary infatuation. It is dangerous. And potentially
costly.
You will know love when
you feel it.
And you will recognize
romantic love when it blossoms from infatuation.
And you will know when
infatuation ends
And you will know when
true love takes over as you desire to commit to that love and quite content to
do so.
Loves will come.
And loves will go.
Some will pass quickly.
Others will endure a
lifetime.
It is important to be
honest with those that you love about your love
But it is even more important – and a prerequisite to your own happiness – that you be honest with yourself about your love for others.
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