Love is an amazing measure
You can love many people
But you will never love two people in the exact same way
Each measure of love is unique to that individual
It should not be measured in how much or how little
It should simply be measured by that you do love
The main aspects of love are appreciation and caring
Combined it will always calculate you a unique measure of love
You only need one or the other, both are not required. But love is more fulfilling if both are present.
Love can be extended to anyone in your life; near, distant, familiar or even obscure.
If people love you, do you have to love them back? If you love someone, do they have to love you back?
No. Love shared by two people are always at two different measures.
You may love your friend enough to think of them as your best friend. That friend may love you back, but they may refer to another as their best friend.
Familiarity with someone should not be confused with love, unless that familiarity brings appreciation and or caring.
Infatuation is not love, not yet. More than likely though this is a transient or temporary love that could potentially dissipate to familiarity. But infatuation could also potentially grow into a very high measure of love.
You never know.
But when someone tells you they are “in love with you”, understand that their love for you is an infatuation.
People who truly love you do not say “in” or “out”. They simply do love you.
So what is “romantic love”?
This is the most rewarding love, when shared with another.
This is the cruelest love, when the measures of love between two people differ significantly.
Romantic love goes beyond caring and appreciation – although caring and appreciation are the foundation of all loves.
Romantic love often extends to include passion, desire, commitment, and then contentment.
Romantic love most often begins as infatuation, which entwines the passion and desire.
This is the most dangerous phase of love.
This is the phase of love that requires the most courage.
This is also the phase of love that requires the most caution.
Because, as I said earlier, infatuation can end as quickly as it begins.
And should the end of infatuation occur for the other party before it occurs for you, the pain can be devastating.
And should the end of infatuation occur for you before the other party, I urge you be honest and polite as you dismiss it. Be kind.
But be cautions of the desire and the passion you feel in this early state. Acting to aggressively may well have very severe penalties.
I implore you as someone who loves you and wants only the best for you, that when you feel the strong passions and desires of infatuation, please employ patience and restraint. Not forever. But until you at least gain an understanding of how transient – how temporary or how potential the prospect of feeling commitment and contentment from this love appears to be.
Do not waste your passion and your desire on temporary infatuation. It is dangerous. And potentially costly.
You will know love when you feel it.
And you will recognize romantic love when it blossoms from infatuation.
And you will know when infatuation ends
And you will know when true love takes over as you desire to commit to that love and quite content to do so.
Loves will come.
And loves will go.
Some will pass quickly.
Others will endure a lifetime.
It is important to be honest with those that you love about your love
But it is even more important – and a prerequisite to your own happiness – that you be honest with yourself about your love for others.